I was walking down Yonge Street in Toronto this morning as I made my way uptown to a meeting. As I waited for the light to turn green at a crosswalk, a commotion erupted at where I was headed across the street.
All of a sudden a police car came to an abrupt halt in the intersection, blocking the sidewalk and the curb cut. A fire truck arrived on the scene too. They were tending to a person who was passed out on the sidewalk, right at the intersection!
"Ahh...life in Toronto!" I thought.
Since the situation wasn't a matter of life and death, we were able to cross the street without hesitation. When I got to the police car, I walked around without any problem.
On the other side of the cruiser, there was a lady who was using a wheelchair. Since the police car was blocking the intersection, she was having some difficulty in getting around the car. As I walked passed her, we both shook our heads in disgust.
I took two steps passed her and then quickly turned back. "Just a minute," I thought. "This lady needs help."
When I returned to her spot, she was still having difficulty. The oncoming cars were not slowing down or stopping, or giving her enough room to go around the police car.
I asked her if she needed some help. She said "yes." I explained to her that I had a son who used a wheelchair and that I understood her position. She smiled at me with gratitude. I told her that I would walk with her and give her some room to move.
As soon as the light turned green, we executed our plan. All it took was 3 steps from me to get her across. 3 small steps..that's it. Not too much to ask, is it?
We both looked at the police car and said that he could have pulled ahead, to the side of the road so that he wasn't blocking the crosswalk. But...he didn't think of it. He didn't think of what the barrier that he created for the lady in the wheelchair.
I realized it because I lived it and was happy to help out. I am going to write a letter to the Toronto Police Department about this.
It's up to us who understand what is needed to explain it to others; to raise awareness and to educate them.
I'm doing my part and I hope you will too!
I got a tear in my eye as I said goodbye to the lady. I thought of my son Eric and how all of the things he has taught me, live on. Bless you Eric, and "thanks for making the world a better place."
Monday, June 27, 2011
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Ensemble and Community Living Essex County - Celebrating 11 years of partnership!
I didn't really know what I was getting into and I don't think that Community Living Essex County knew either!
It was 11 years ago that myself, parent leader Marilyn Godard and Nancy Wallace-Gero, Executive Director at Community Living Essex County, had the vision to strengthen and enhance the leadership and involvement of families in Essex County. Our initial discussions were very exciting and the passion for working together was invigorating!
That's how Ensemble, a French word that means together, was born!
The expertise of parents was valued and the concept of "parent consultants" was invented. What came after that was a relationship based on true partnership and sharing of expertise. Together we created successful projects like Include Me, which was used as an international training tool. We initiated The Ring of Friendship, stories and artwork from elementary school children about friendship and inclusion.
We developed My Life, My Decisions, a tool for people and families to use before they write their personal plan. Together we have hosted Conferences, workshops and seminars. We have reached beyond our typical scope of support to others in community, like multicultural organizations (Crossing Cultural Barriers) and faith based groups. We have solid relationships with school boards and government funded agencies and have created projects like "Did You Know...", a video for professional development for educators. Next year, we will host the 2nd annual "Windsor Essex Loves Talent Showcase" a fundraising event that engages schools, families, and local business to raise money to support children and youth to be included in community activities and events during the summer months.
Ensemble was a huge influence in convincing Community Living Essex County to learn about planning with Personal Outcomes and the importance of providing all support based on each person's individual goals and dreams. Now, it's the only way support is provided.
A group of 7 moms got together to write a book called "Special Kids, Special Parents" that shares stories, tips and comfort for parents that have children diagnosed with a disability. Our local Pediatric department is consulting us on developing a culture of Family Centered-Care. Our municipality has asked us about accessibility and what it means to parents.
What's the secret to our success? A true commitment to working together, sharing ideas, being honest, being open to learning and most of all, passion, and truly working for the people and families we support.
It has been an awesome journey so far and we are looking forward to many new and exciting adventures to come!
It was 11 years ago that myself, parent leader Marilyn Godard and Nancy Wallace-Gero, Executive Director at Community Living Essex County, had the vision to strengthen and enhance the leadership and involvement of families in Essex County. Our initial discussions were very exciting and the passion for working together was invigorating!
That's how Ensemble, a French word that means together, was born!
The expertise of parents was valued and the concept of "parent consultants" was invented. What came after that was a relationship based on true partnership and sharing of expertise. Together we created successful projects like Include Me, which was used as an international training tool. We initiated The Ring of Friendship, stories and artwork from elementary school children about friendship and inclusion.
We developed My Life, My Decisions, a tool for people and families to use before they write their personal plan. Together we have hosted Conferences, workshops and seminars. We have reached beyond our typical scope of support to others in community, like multicultural organizations (Crossing Cultural Barriers) and faith based groups. We have solid relationships with school boards and government funded agencies and have created projects like "Did You Know...", a video for professional development for educators. Next year, we will host the 2nd annual "Windsor Essex Loves Talent Showcase" a fundraising event that engages schools, families, and local business to raise money to support children and youth to be included in community activities and events during the summer months.
Ensemble was a huge influence in convincing Community Living Essex County to learn about planning with Personal Outcomes and the importance of providing all support based on each person's individual goals and dreams. Now, it's the only way support is provided.
A group of 7 moms got together to write a book called "Special Kids, Special Parents" that shares stories, tips and comfort for parents that have children diagnosed with a disability. Our local Pediatric department is consulting us on developing a culture of Family Centered-Care. Our municipality has asked us about accessibility and what it means to parents.
What's the secret to our success? A true commitment to working together, sharing ideas, being honest, being open to learning and most of all, passion, and truly working for the people and families we support.
It has been an awesome journey so far and we are looking forward to many new and exciting adventures to come!
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Parenting Tip: Play with The Olympic Spirit!
My 9 year old son asked me this question "what do you have to do to be on a travel baseball team?"
I replied by saying that it usually starts with a real love of the sport. That it takes a good amount of practice and that it's important to want to practice and work hard to develop a skill. I also mentioned that it's really important to enjoy what you're doing and to have fun.
"Oh" he replied. "What does it take to get to the Olympics?" he asked. "Do you have to try out?"
I re-emphasized what I had said earlier about playing on a travel team, about hard work and dedication, having fun, having a love for the sport...and so on. "That's the Olympic Spirit" I said. I went on to explain that it's important to have that spirit even if you're not on a travel team; to try your best and be willing to learn and practice what you learn. It's about putting your heart into it and having a desire to do it.
I told him that it didn't matter to me whether or not he played on a travel team, but the way he played was more important to me.
"Play with the Olympic Spirit!" I said....and the results will come.
I replied by saying that it usually starts with a real love of the sport. That it takes a good amount of practice and that it's important to want to practice and work hard to develop a skill. I also mentioned that it's really important to enjoy what you're doing and to have fun.
"Oh" he replied. "What does it take to get to the Olympics?" he asked. "Do you have to try out?"
I re-emphasized what I had said earlier about playing on a travel team, about hard work and dedication, having fun, having a love for the sport...and so on. "That's the Olympic Spirit" I said. I went on to explain that it's important to have that spirit even if you're not on a travel team; to try your best and be willing to learn and practice what you learn. It's about putting your heart into it and having a desire to do it.
I told him that it didn't matter to me whether or not he played on a travel team, but the way he played was more important to me.
"Play with the Olympic Spirit!" I said....and the results will come.
Why are programs a bad thing?
Over the course of the past few years, I have heard that offering programs for people who have an intellectual disability is a bad thing.
As a result, government funding to agencies and organizations that support people have not received any new funding for programs. The Government of Ontario has embarked upon a "Transformation of Developmental Services" with an emphasis on personal choice and individualized funding. It's supposed to be a way of responding to people more effectively and respectfully.
Yet with over 20,000 people in the province who have unmet needs and are on a waiting list for supports and services, how responsive is the new approach?
Families are tired. Families are stressed. In their mid-life and senior years, families want to know that support is available for their son or daughter. They don't want to quit their job and they don't want their son or daughter's disability to consume their whole life.
Guess what? The number one question that we are asked by parent that have teens graduating from high school is "What kind of program is available?" I can't tell you how difficult it is for me to repeatedly reply to families "there isn't one". Silence on the other end.
"Well, what am I supposed to do?" they ask. "Well, your son or daughter writes a personal plan and you apply for individualized funding" I reply. "But where are they going to go?" they continue to ask. "I don't know what I'm going to do...where are the programs?"
I try to explain to them that the current philosophy believes that programs are no longer considered to be a good thing. That support agencies no longer receive funding to offer a program for people and that we are moving toward more community based support.
"Well that's absurd" they reply. "I don't want my son or daughter to sit in one room and do piece work, but I certainly need the help of an organization to support my child and to help them have something to do and have a meaningful life." "I can't do this on my own."
"Why are programs such a bad thing?"
I explain that people are healthier and safer in their community and that the more community connections we have, the richer our lives will be; no different for people who have a disability. Parents usually agree. "I get it" they say, "but that's what an agency can do...connect my son with people in the community, and if he is having a challenging day, I know that he has somewhere to go." "I believe in all of that" they say, "but I don't want to quit my job to do it and he has multiple challenges and it's not so easy to support him all day." "And what about my life too?" "I am tired and I need a break."
They further explain that in their mind "a program is something that is offered according to what their son or daughter wants to do and that a few people with a similar interest may hang out together." They are very clear about the fact that they need assistance from an organization.
I empathize with the parent and then encourage them to fill out the application for funding, knowing that they will be placed on a very long waiting list and that it could take years for them to see any funding. I see the stress on their face and I hear the fear in the question "what am I going to do; what is he going to do?"
And then I ask myself "why are programs a bad thing?"
As a result, government funding to agencies and organizations that support people have not received any new funding for programs. The Government of Ontario has embarked upon a "Transformation of Developmental Services" with an emphasis on personal choice and individualized funding. It's supposed to be a way of responding to people more effectively and respectfully.
Yet with over 20,000 people in the province who have unmet needs and are on a waiting list for supports and services, how responsive is the new approach?
Families are tired. Families are stressed. In their mid-life and senior years, families want to know that support is available for their son or daughter. They don't want to quit their job and they don't want their son or daughter's disability to consume their whole life.
Guess what? The number one question that we are asked by parent that have teens graduating from high school is "What kind of program is available?" I can't tell you how difficult it is for me to repeatedly reply to families "there isn't one". Silence on the other end.
"Well, what am I supposed to do?" they ask. "Well, your son or daughter writes a personal plan and you apply for individualized funding" I reply. "But where are they going to go?" they continue to ask. "I don't know what I'm going to do...where are the programs?"
I try to explain to them that the current philosophy believes that programs are no longer considered to be a good thing. That support agencies no longer receive funding to offer a program for people and that we are moving toward more community based support.
"Well that's absurd" they reply. "I don't want my son or daughter to sit in one room and do piece work, but I certainly need the help of an organization to support my child and to help them have something to do and have a meaningful life." "I can't do this on my own."
"Why are programs such a bad thing?"
I explain that people are healthier and safer in their community and that the more community connections we have, the richer our lives will be; no different for people who have a disability. Parents usually agree. "I get it" they say, "but that's what an agency can do...connect my son with people in the community, and if he is having a challenging day, I know that he has somewhere to go." "I believe in all of that" they say, "but I don't want to quit my job to do it and he has multiple challenges and it's not so easy to support him all day." "And what about my life too?" "I am tired and I need a break."
They further explain that in their mind "a program is something that is offered according to what their son or daughter wants to do and that a few people with a similar interest may hang out together." They are very clear about the fact that they need assistance from an organization.
I empathize with the parent and then encourage them to fill out the application for funding, knowing that they will be placed on a very long waiting list and that it could take years for them to see any funding. I see the stress on their face and I hear the fear in the question "what am I going to do; what is he going to do?"
And then I ask myself "why are programs a bad thing?"
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